Hi everyone. I have not wrote anything in a while. I have not been feeling Johnny Positive lately so there's that.
In this life, we take one trip around the Merry Go Round. That's it. So I have always felt it best to be kind to people, help when you can, love and be loved. That is my philosophy.
It's a shame that many others don't share that common view with me.
I'm not going to get into specifics here, but I can tell you that in life its a sad fact when sometimes the people who are supposed to be closest are the furthest. No matter how many times you extend your hand, open your arms, speak kind words, they are kicked back in your face and followed by spit once in a while. I will also tell you that in this life, I feel alone at times. However, I think we all do. We all feel defeated every once in a while. We feel abandoned from time to time. Sometimes the frustrations in life get the best of you and those who are closest (and don't go anywhere) catch the shit of what you're dealing with.
We take on too much because at times we feel like we have to. There's no choice and sometimes no going back. We accept a job we may not be qualified for. We bear children when we're not grown up ourselves. We allow people into our lives that we are in no shape to be around. Yes, we're a society that bites off more than they can chew at all times.
However there's one thing we do and it separates the can dos from the won'ts.
Adaptation.
When I had my kids I was scared to death. In fact, in the beginning, I was working so much I was never home to see Jersey grow the first few months she was born. Vicki felt like she was a single mother. I will never make that mistake again. This is why I don't go out with the boys. This is why I spend weekends with my family. I want to be the greatest dad ever. Yes I can be spacey because I have too much work shit on the brain. Yes I lose my patience with life from time to time. However, I love my family more than anything. I want to be the best husband, father, and its what I aspire to.
So I need to adapt to the situations going on.
We all do. It's in the best interest of our growth and development. I don't give a shit what you all may think. You are not done growing up. If you think you are, you have issues my friend.
We all do the best we can and when we fail. We need to get back up and try again. Its like that
Mike C
Monday, March 10, 2014
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
YOU PISS ME OFF BUT...
The last couple of weeks have been a complete whirlwind of crap going on. Changes at job, big plans for life, possible financial constraints, yada yada yada. Game face is on 24/7 ready to strike. No time for good behavior, no days off. We are here for one reason. To dominate the obstacles that stand in our way.
The sad thing is some of those obstacles come from out of nowhere. At sometimes it can be the least expected source of anxiety. It can be a family member, a friend, someone you are trying to do business with, vendors who may be participating in one of the biggest days of your life. All this angst is enough to get you down. I know for a fact I have been teetering between anger and despair.
However, those are feelings, thoughts and moments that last for well a moment.
To keep a guy like me down, you need a gun, a knife, duck tape maybe. If you don't have them, don't bother showing up to the party because I am determined and driven to do good things for the people who matter most.
Sure, you may try to crap on my special parade. You might be jealous of what I have accomplished and wish you could do it as well. You probably could but you don't have the balls to do anything but sit around and bitch. You wish you could find sollutions like I do. You wish you could get back up and run like I do. And most of all, you wish you could smile like I do.
The funny thing about the haters, if they could just take a step back and see what they are angry about, they will find it pales in comparison to the positive they could find it they would look for it.
The keys to life are love, support, belief, and faith. If you can find these four things, you let stuff like this roll off. No matter how hard the storm blows. No matter how much venom they shoot at you. No matter what they try, you have it all. You are the best. You can do whatever you want. Push through the wall of problems and end up in the room of happiness.
Life is a fight 24/7. Put your gloves on and box your way out of the issue. You will be the champion. Sometimes it may take one round, but others it can take a hundred. Even if people close to you are trying to jump on your cloud and make it your own, remember they can stay they for a while, but its your cloud and you make the rules. If they don't want to rules, pray they have a parachute on their way down.
You want in my house? Fine. You can drink the coffee, but you don't have to leave if you don't like how it tastes. The people who stay in the house are the ones you can love, support, believe in and faith they will be there for you, always.
You piss me off but you won't ruin my shine. Be productive. Work on your shine rather than ruining mine pallie.
Mike C
The sad thing is some of those obstacles come from out of nowhere. At sometimes it can be the least expected source of anxiety. It can be a family member, a friend, someone you are trying to do business with, vendors who may be participating in one of the biggest days of your life. All this angst is enough to get you down. I know for a fact I have been teetering between anger and despair.
However, those are feelings, thoughts and moments that last for well a moment.
To keep a guy like me down, you need a gun, a knife, duck tape maybe. If you don't have them, don't bother showing up to the party because I am determined and driven to do good things for the people who matter most.
Sure, you may try to crap on my special parade. You might be jealous of what I have accomplished and wish you could do it as well. You probably could but you don't have the balls to do anything but sit around and bitch. You wish you could find sollutions like I do. You wish you could get back up and run like I do. And most of all, you wish you could smile like I do.
The funny thing about the haters, if they could just take a step back and see what they are angry about, they will find it pales in comparison to the positive they could find it they would look for it.
The keys to life are love, support, belief, and faith. If you can find these four things, you let stuff like this roll off. No matter how hard the storm blows. No matter how much venom they shoot at you. No matter what they try, you have it all. You are the best. You can do whatever you want. Push through the wall of problems and end up in the room of happiness.
Life is a fight 24/7. Put your gloves on and box your way out of the issue. You will be the champion. Sometimes it may take one round, but others it can take a hundred. Even if people close to you are trying to jump on your cloud and make it your own, remember they can stay they for a while, but its your cloud and you make the rules. If they don't want to rules, pray they have a parachute on their way down.
You want in my house? Fine. You can drink the coffee, but you don't have to leave if you don't like how it tastes. The people who stay in the house are the ones you can love, support, believe in and faith they will be there for you, always.
You piss me off but you won't ruin my shine. Be productive. Work on your shine rather than ruining mine pallie.
Mike C
Monday, February 24, 2014
I LOVE SURPRISES
There are times in life when things just happen and you do your best to go with it.
Sometimes they are good things and sometimes bad.
Life is a series of situations or as they say in the counseling world "neutral prompts." Your reaction dictates the outcome of unexpected event or situation. It's always good to keep an open mind everyday you live. You never know what is going to happen. Sometimes you may be sitting in a car and some jabroni hits you, other days you are sitting in your office and a bomb drops on you. Not a nuclear bomb, but something really fricking cool happens.
It's these moments in life where you want to enjoy these moments.
I always try to maintain my life with these three simple principles.
First, always be kind to everyone. No matter what. Even if they piss you off. Yes, Capone said you can get further in life with a kind word and a gun than just a kind word alone, but we don't all have guns because we don't need them, yet. Killing people with kindness is always more advisable than killing people with guns. You can always go back from giving kindness with more kindness, and there is no jail time involved.
Secondly, if you do get a gift or present from someone, always appreciate it. Like Christmas bonuses for instances. I can't stand when people say "oh my Christmas bonus sucked." You work at a job where you are guaranteed payment for the job you perform. You get a bonus because it's a bonus. Many people out there get no Christmas bonus. Therefore be grateful that you did, and love life.
And third, when you get surprised, act accordingly.
Life is about enjoying those little precious moments, and when someone gives you something, be thankful. They thought of you for some reason. Pay it forward, and always be respectful, kind, and humbled. It goes a long way.
Mike C
Sometimes they are good things and sometimes bad.
Life is a series of situations or as they say in the counseling world "neutral prompts." Your reaction dictates the outcome of unexpected event or situation. It's always good to keep an open mind everyday you live. You never know what is going to happen. Sometimes you may be sitting in a car and some jabroni hits you, other days you are sitting in your office and a bomb drops on you. Not a nuclear bomb, but something really fricking cool happens.
It's these moments in life where you want to enjoy these moments.
I always try to maintain my life with these three simple principles.
First, always be kind to everyone. No matter what. Even if they piss you off. Yes, Capone said you can get further in life with a kind word and a gun than just a kind word alone, but we don't all have guns because we don't need them, yet. Killing people with kindness is always more advisable than killing people with guns. You can always go back from giving kindness with more kindness, and there is no jail time involved.
Secondly, if you do get a gift or present from someone, always appreciate it. Like Christmas bonuses for instances. I can't stand when people say "oh my Christmas bonus sucked." You work at a job where you are guaranteed payment for the job you perform. You get a bonus because it's a bonus. Many people out there get no Christmas bonus. Therefore be grateful that you did, and love life.
And third, when you get surprised, act accordingly.
Life is about enjoying those little precious moments, and when someone gives you something, be thankful. They thought of you for some reason. Pay it forward, and always be respectful, kind, and humbled. It goes a long way.
Mike C
Thursday, February 20, 2014
CLIMATE WONT CHANGE ME
Here in Chicago, four words best sum up the winter. This weather really sucks.
We have had polar vortexs, huge snowfalls, only to be followed up by a storm going on now with lots of wind and rain to boot. I keep hearing the wonderful sound of our sump pump and the wind banging on windows.
The weather can make you depressed. I really wrestle with it every winter. I need to be surronded by sunshine constantly. This is a huge reason why I want to move to Florida. Hawaii, if not so expensive, would be a viable option as well.
However some times you play the hand you are dealt and you try to make the best of it. And sometimes you need to be grateful of a few things and it puts it in perspective for you.
The winter night can be quite a sight, and many out there cannot see it because they are blind.
I don't have to be in the cold 24/7 because I am fortunate enough to provide that for my family, but many are not as lucky as me.
I drive my car to work, some people have to walk. Worse yet, there are some people who cannot walk.
Many people spend this time of year alone. I have a family that I can share good times with.
I am reminding myself that I am blessed. Although I wish I can be somewhere else right now, I can't become depressed or spiteful because of the climate. Weather is a problem we all deal with in some capacity. I thank God that I can breath the cold air that's suffocating but I can go inside and walk it off. There are others not as lucky.
Climate won't change me, and I pray to God he help those who need help.
Mike C
We have had polar vortexs, huge snowfalls, only to be followed up by a storm going on now with lots of wind and rain to boot. I keep hearing the wonderful sound of our sump pump and the wind banging on windows.
The weather can make you depressed. I really wrestle with it every winter. I need to be surronded by sunshine constantly. This is a huge reason why I want to move to Florida. Hawaii, if not so expensive, would be a viable option as well.
However some times you play the hand you are dealt and you try to make the best of it. And sometimes you need to be grateful of a few things and it puts it in perspective for you.
The winter night can be quite a sight, and many out there cannot see it because they are blind.
I don't have to be in the cold 24/7 because I am fortunate enough to provide that for my family, but many are not as lucky as me.
I drive my car to work, some people have to walk. Worse yet, there are some people who cannot walk.
Many people spend this time of year alone. I have a family that I can share good times with.
I am reminding myself that I am blessed. Although I wish I can be somewhere else right now, I can't become depressed or spiteful because of the climate. Weather is a problem we all deal with in some capacity. I thank God that I can breath the cold air that's suffocating but I can go inside and walk it off. There are others not as lucky.
Climate won't change me, and I pray to God he help those who need help.
Mike C
Monday, February 17, 2014
PAYING WITH A SMILE
How nice can you be to someone? Can you put yourself out there to really help? Have you ever?
Tonight I was on a long trek home after a couple of appointments and I stopped at one of my favorite places, Pita Inn. I went to get a sandwich and there was this woman who ordered food for her family and they kept telling her something was wrong with her credit card. She plead with the cashier to run her card again and he did, but it was the same result, declined. She ran outside frantically to call her husband and came back in to say that her husband said there was enough money. The cashier disagreed. She seemed very upset.
I went into my pocket, whipped out my credit card and paid for her meal. The cashier and the woman didn't know how to react. When asked why, my response:
You can't go into the Pita Inn and leave without food.
The woman was very grateful and she thanked me and left.
One of the things I have learned in life is when you put positive energy into the universe, it comes back.
I got Jersey to sleep tonight and then had to go outside to shovel my driveway buried under at least a foot of snow. I got halfway through it with my shovel when my neighbor across the street walked over and asked if I could use help. He had a snowplow. I said sure and he came over and finished off the driveway. We introduced ourselves, shook hands, had a beer and called it a night.
A nice end to a trying day of white knuckle driving. I did not get home until late, but I did get to hang out with the kids a little bit, and saw my beautiful soon to be wife as well.
It's days like this that are special. When you put that positive energy into play and it comes back. You pay it forward, and someone follows you. From what I hear it was a crappy movie, but the concept was simple and wonderful.
Tonight I was on a long trek home after a couple of appointments and I stopped at one of my favorite places, Pita Inn. I went to get a sandwich and there was this woman who ordered food for her family and they kept telling her something was wrong with her credit card. She plead with the cashier to run her card again and he did, but it was the same result, declined. She ran outside frantically to call her husband and came back in to say that her husband said there was enough money. The cashier disagreed. She seemed very upset.
I went into my pocket, whipped out my credit card and paid for her meal. The cashier and the woman didn't know how to react. When asked why, my response:
You can't go into the Pita Inn and leave without food.
The woman was very grateful and she thanked me and left.
One of the things I have learned in life is when you put positive energy into the universe, it comes back.
I got Jersey to sleep tonight and then had to go outside to shovel my driveway buried under at least a foot of snow. I got halfway through it with my shovel when my neighbor across the street walked over and asked if I could use help. He had a snowplow. I said sure and he came over and finished off the driveway. We introduced ourselves, shook hands, had a beer and called it a night.
A nice end to a trying day of white knuckle driving. I did not get home until late, but I did get to hang out with the kids a little bit, and saw my beautiful soon to be wife as well.
It's days like this that are special. When you put that positive energy into play and it comes back. You pay it forward, and someone follows you. From what I hear it was a crappy movie, but the concept was simple and wonderful.
Find ways to take care of people when you can. Whether you fill up their gas, help them with food, hold a door open; every move you make can and will affect others around you. It's always important to think about what you would like someone to do.
There is so much negativity in our world. However, we can all make a difference together if we learn how to watch out for each other, and make life better for one person per day.
I started this today. It's up to you to never break the chain. Keep the movement alive. Do something wonderful for someone. Random acts of kindness can be the best thing in someone's day. Life is about making people smile.
So make someone smile today.
Mike C
Sunday, February 16, 2014
THE RIDE AND THE NOISE
"All the noise and everything out there, you can get whiplash if you allow yourself to."-Erik Spoelstra
As you may have heard, Vicki and I are getting married in roughly 6 months or so. The journey so far has been fun, challenging, and without a doubt, one of the biggest tests in our lives. Not due to our love for each other, but all the stress that comes with planning an event. The financial end, the advice, the not knowing what is the best course of action, etc, etc. This is our ride.
What is your ride? What is your dream?
Did you ever engage yourself in something that takes over everything else in your life? Have you ever looked for support and what you got back was limited? Did you ever try to get on that bicycle and start pedaling down the trail, only to have your team mates tell you you took the wrong path? How about when you ride down that path, one of your team mates decides to stop and then take their bike and go home? Then there's that time where you need to stop riding because you know the trail is going to get treacherous and you have to mentally prepare yourself for what's ahead of you, but one of your team mates insist that you go forward, and if you don't, you're not part of the team, and you never really did anything to contribute in the past. You also think about the times you assembled your team and some people didn't even want to be in it.
That my friends is noise. The noise allows you to focus on it. To hear it can break you. You get distracted and focus on it. Most of the time, it is so overwhelming it is impossible to ignore. The fever pitch of it can make you feel hopeless, hurt, angry, upset, insecure, and worst case scenario, defeated. Noise can be a bad thing, however it can be a motivating factor to attribute to achieving victory.
I heard something new in the last month. When someone says I can't, I say watch me. Since I have heard that, I have decided that is one of my rallying cries. I have spent my life proving people wrong. I have achieved when many said I wouldn't. I have dreamed and lived it. I am very fortunate and blessed to have the life that I have and that God has given me the sense of direction and purpose that I have. As I have said many times before, we are all blessed. We were given another day. Every time we wake up in the morning we are blessed to listen to the birds sing, smell the air, and enjoy our families company once again.
So why we would let a little thing like noise get in the way of that?
In life, some people aren't going to be supportive, no matter what their role in our lives are. They can be as thin as that dude you grew up with, or thick as your immediate family, not everyone is going to do the right thing all the time, and sadly stated, will never do the right thing ever. The only thing you can focus on is will you do the right thing? Will you show people you love that you care? Will you be there on the side of your team mates and partners? Will you ride down that path with them if they pick it despite how you feel about it?
Once you do that, you know that you rock. And you is what matters here.
So find that volume knob and turn the down noise.
And turn up the greatness that is you.
Mike C
As you may have heard, Vicki and I are getting married in roughly 6 months or so. The journey so far has been fun, challenging, and without a doubt, one of the biggest tests in our lives. Not due to our love for each other, but all the stress that comes with planning an event. The financial end, the advice, the not knowing what is the best course of action, etc, etc. This is our ride.
What is your ride? What is your dream?
Did you ever engage yourself in something that takes over everything else in your life? Have you ever looked for support and what you got back was limited? Did you ever try to get on that bicycle and start pedaling down the trail, only to have your team mates tell you you took the wrong path? How about when you ride down that path, one of your team mates decides to stop and then take their bike and go home? Then there's that time where you need to stop riding because you know the trail is going to get treacherous and you have to mentally prepare yourself for what's ahead of you, but one of your team mates insist that you go forward, and if you don't, you're not part of the team, and you never really did anything to contribute in the past. You also think about the times you assembled your team and some people didn't even want to be in it.
That my friends is noise. The noise allows you to focus on it. To hear it can break you. You get distracted and focus on it. Most of the time, it is so overwhelming it is impossible to ignore. The fever pitch of it can make you feel hopeless, hurt, angry, upset, insecure, and worst case scenario, defeated. Noise can be a bad thing, however it can be a motivating factor to attribute to achieving victory.
I heard something new in the last month. When someone says I can't, I say watch me. Since I have heard that, I have decided that is one of my rallying cries. I have spent my life proving people wrong. I have achieved when many said I wouldn't. I have dreamed and lived it. I am very fortunate and blessed to have the life that I have and that God has given me the sense of direction and purpose that I have. As I have said many times before, we are all blessed. We were given another day. Every time we wake up in the morning we are blessed to listen to the birds sing, smell the air, and enjoy our families company once again.
So why we would let a little thing like noise get in the way of that?
In life, some people aren't going to be supportive, no matter what their role in our lives are. They can be as thin as that dude you grew up with, or thick as your immediate family, not everyone is going to do the right thing all the time, and sadly stated, will never do the right thing ever. The only thing you can focus on is will you do the right thing? Will you show people you love that you care? Will you be there on the side of your team mates and partners? Will you ride down that path with them if they pick it despite how you feel about it?
Once you do that, you know that you rock. And you is what matters here.
So find that volume knob and turn the down noise.
And turn up the greatness that is you.
Mike C
Sunday, February 9, 2014
THE COLLISION
"An accident doesn't exist when it comes to automobiles. There are only collisions. Accidents are not preventable. When collisions happen they're a result of poor decision making."-Some guy in a traffic school class that works for the National Safety Council.
Whether this is true or not, isn't the point of this post.
I was on my way home, family in car. We just enjoyed a nice dinner at Mandiles in Algonquin and stopped by Meijer to pick up a few things from the store. On our way home, a young kid didn't allow me enough time to make my turn and turned right into me. Everyone in the car was OK. Not much damage to my car, but the steering seems off, so I'll have to get that checked out.
When I got home, I really thought about the collision. I thought about the speed in which it happens. Vicki and the kids didn't see it coming. I saw him start to turn before I completed my turn and I accelerated a little bit, but he may not have been paying attention so he bopped me. He got the rear drivers side tire. If I hadn't accelerated, he would have hit my door or worse yet Avery's. The kid had to be at about 5 MPH or so. He was leaving a stop sign.
Now think about it if the guy was cruising down the road at 35-40 MPH and hit me. What would have happened then?
You see the point here is that it can all change for you in the blink of an eye. Here one second, gone the next. You may be walking across the same street you walked across for ten years, and you get hit one day. It's good to be vigilant and watch out for oncoming cars, hazards, things like that, but I can think of one thing you need to be.
Grateful.
Always be grateful every day that God has allowed you another day to live and make the most of what you have. That your number has not been called yet. In a split second, you can be gone, and everyone you leave behind feels pain. It was one split second when my mother passed out in a huge office building and help didn't reach her quick enough and just like that. She was taken from me. She fought for ten days to live, but she just couldn't do it.
This is why I exercise and make a conscious effort to eat right every day. For my family. I accept the life God has given me. I will make the most of it and I will encourage others to think carefully about decisions. I encourage you all to show a great deal of love to those closest to you. It was once said to me "end every meeting with the people you care about on a positive note." It's true. I love my three girls and I make sure every night they know that.
A collision takes a second. A life can be taken in a second. However it only takes a second to express how much you love. Take more than a second and make sure they all know.
Mike C
Whether this is true or not, isn't the point of this post.
I was on my way home, family in car. We just enjoyed a nice dinner at Mandiles in Algonquin and stopped by Meijer to pick up a few things from the store. On our way home, a young kid didn't allow me enough time to make my turn and turned right into me. Everyone in the car was OK. Not much damage to my car, but the steering seems off, so I'll have to get that checked out.
When I got home, I really thought about the collision. I thought about the speed in which it happens. Vicki and the kids didn't see it coming. I saw him start to turn before I completed my turn and I accelerated a little bit, but he may not have been paying attention so he bopped me. He got the rear drivers side tire. If I hadn't accelerated, he would have hit my door or worse yet Avery's. The kid had to be at about 5 MPH or so. He was leaving a stop sign.
Now think about it if the guy was cruising down the road at 35-40 MPH and hit me. What would have happened then?
You see the point here is that it can all change for you in the blink of an eye. Here one second, gone the next. You may be walking across the same street you walked across for ten years, and you get hit one day. It's good to be vigilant and watch out for oncoming cars, hazards, things like that, but I can think of one thing you need to be.
Grateful.
Always be grateful every day that God has allowed you another day to live and make the most of what you have. That your number has not been called yet. In a split second, you can be gone, and everyone you leave behind feels pain. It was one split second when my mother passed out in a huge office building and help didn't reach her quick enough and just like that. She was taken from me. She fought for ten days to live, but she just couldn't do it.
This is why I exercise and make a conscious effort to eat right every day. For my family. I accept the life God has given me. I will make the most of it and I will encourage others to think carefully about decisions. I encourage you all to show a great deal of love to those closest to you. It was once said to me "end every meeting with the people you care about on a positive note." It's true. I love my three girls and I make sure every night they know that.
A collision takes a second. A life can be taken in a second. However it only takes a second to express how much you love. Take more than a second and make sure they all know.
Mike C
Friday, February 7, 2014
LOVE AIN'T NO STRANGER
So have you found love in your life? I did. Almost 21 years ago.
First off, full disclosure. I used this title because Slide In It is a kick ass album.
OK, it was a hot summer night in 1997. She showed up to my doorstep with a buddy. I wanted her to come back the next day and have pancakes with me. She thought I was weird. She thought I was trying to blow her off. We eventually got together and went out and hung out. It was awesome.
She taught me so many things about life. However, 7 seven years after we got together, she taught me the most important thing.
There was a good guy inside of me that could be loved.
Through our ups and downs, the craziness in our lives, and challenges that were thrown at us. There was one thing that always was in the back of my mind. I have always been crazy about her. And 21 years later, you bet your ass I still am.
So why did we wait 21 years to get married? Easy, marriage was never important to us. She always said "I don't God and the law to back up how much I love you." However, we are due for one hell of a party. And the kids are going to love it.
We want this to be a special day not for a new beginning for us. It's a celebration of a candle that has burnt bright for decades. We complete each other. She is my absolute best friend. My partner in crime. The mother of my children. The closest thing I have ever had to a sister, and thank God she isn't my sister. That would be wrong. I feel I have grown leaps and bounds since my teenage years and early twenties, and I owe much of this to her. Sometimes I don't think she understands the gravity she has had in my life.
So this wedding coming up isn't me finally throwing in the towel and making her an honest woman. She is the most honest woman I know. This isn't her trapping me. She had me trapped the day she met me.
Hope you're ready to celebrate love. Hug your family, friends, and significant others. Love is everywhere. You just need to find it. I hope you do. In the meantime, celebrate us. Two wonderful kids came out of it.
Mike C
First off, full disclosure. I used this title because Slide In It is a kick ass album.
OK, it was a hot summer night in 1997. She showed up to my doorstep with a buddy. I wanted her to come back the next day and have pancakes with me. She thought I was weird. She thought I was trying to blow her off. We eventually got together and went out and hung out. It was awesome.
She taught me so many things about life. However, 7 seven years after we got together, she taught me the most important thing.
There was a good guy inside of me that could be loved.
Through our ups and downs, the craziness in our lives, and challenges that were thrown at us. There was one thing that always was in the back of my mind. I have always been crazy about her. And 21 years later, you bet your ass I still am.
So why did we wait 21 years to get married? Easy, marriage was never important to us. She always said "I don't God and the law to back up how much I love you." However, we are due for one hell of a party. And the kids are going to love it.
We want this to be a special day not for a new beginning for us. It's a celebration of a candle that has burnt bright for decades. We complete each other. She is my absolute best friend. My partner in crime. The mother of my children. The closest thing I have ever had to a sister, and thank God she isn't my sister. That would be wrong. I feel I have grown leaps and bounds since my teenage years and early twenties, and I owe much of this to her. Sometimes I don't think she understands the gravity she has had in my life.
So this wedding coming up isn't me finally throwing in the towel and making her an honest woman. She is the most honest woman I know. This isn't her trapping me. She had me trapped the day she met me.
Hope you're ready to celebrate love. Hug your family, friends, and significant others. Love is everywhere. You just need to find it. I hope you do. In the meantime, celebrate us. Two wonderful kids came out of it.
Mike C
WORK HARD
I believe you need to work hard to make things work.
Just because you work hard doesn't always mean it has to be hard.
It is 2:26 am and I am still awake. I just nailed down an expense report for my job, filled out some other paperwork, gone over the contract for my wedding, made rice krispy treats for Jersey to take to school, got some clothes together and manly ironing them (using the wrinkle free cycle in the dryer) and getting ready to crash.
Sure I'm tired but damn do I feel accomplished.
That sense of accomplishment is like a high to me. We are starting a new contract at work and I am chomping at the bit to get it off. This along wth other occupational challenges are pushing me to points I never thought I would go. It helps me discover strength I never had.
Every person on this Earth has that something inside of them that gives them the push. That motivational to get shit done. Luckily that's the case for most of us. In other parts of the country/world, its a will to survive life. To breathe, to thrive. Many of us don't need to worry about it and take the gift of life for granted. I know I say over and over again, every day is a fricking gift.
I just wanted to say to you that working hard is fun, as long as its for the right reasons. I also need to remind you the importance of finding time to relax and do things for yourself. Sometimes you need to tell the job enough. Set some boundaries. It is very difficult, but it needs to be done. You need time to play hard as well.
The most important thing to work hard at is enjoying life. Spending time with loved ones. Laughing and enjoying as much as you can. Always remember that is the one job you have that never goes away, and pays you tenfold more than some corporation can give you.
Mike C
Just because you work hard doesn't always mean it has to be hard.
It is 2:26 am and I am still awake. I just nailed down an expense report for my job, filled out some other paperwork, gone over the contract for my wedding, made rice krispy treats for Jersey to take to school, got some clothes together and manly ironing them (using the wrinkle free cycle in the dryer) and getting ready to crash.
Sure I'm tired but damn do I feel accomplished.
That sense of accomplishment is like a high to me. We are starting a new contract at work and I am chomping at the bit to get it off. This along wth other occupational challenges are pushing me to points I never thought I would go. It helps me discover strength I never had.
Every person on this Earth has that something inside of them that gives them the push. That motivational to get shit done. Luckily that's the case for most of us. In other parts of the country/world, its a will to survive life. To breathe, to thrive. Many of us don't need to worry about it and take the gift of life for granted. I know I say over and over again, every day is a fricking gift.
I just wanted to say to you that working hard is fun, as long as its for the right reasons. I also need to remind you the importance of finding time to relax and do things for yourself. Sometimes you need to tell the job enough. Set some boundaries. It is very difficult, but it needs to be done. You need time to play hard as well.
The most important thing to work hard at is enjoying life. Spending time with loved ones. Laughing and enjoying as much as you can. Always remember that is the one job you have that never goes away, and pays you tenfold more than some corporation can give you.
Mike C
Tuesday, February 4, 2014
BETTER
Last week was the first week of February, and the week of sickness in the Caserno household. It was tough. I haven't gotten a chance to get to talk to you about engagement, life, things to come, and parts of our exciting journey. This is because Vicki got sick first, then me, then Jersey. Somehow Avery managed to escape the hurlarama. Good for her. She's the youngest Caserno, so she shouldn't have to.
Yes we were sick. Hell, at this time, most of America is sick. However for most of us, there is something really beautiful about being sick.
We have a chance to become better.
Many people in this world stay sick forever. They stay sick until they die. My family and I have the grace of God to rebound from sickness. You feel like you're going to die, but when it's over, you feel thrilled you have the chance to live again.
The way I chose to decide to live, I went and kicked my ass at Insanity, got myself to the office, and get back in the groove. I am enjoying time with my family, and counting the days until we have a ceremony to celebrate our love. I will touch on that one more tomorrow, however for now...
Remember that each moment in life is a gift. Wellness is a gift that should not be taken for granted. You need to take care of yourself for not only you, but the ones you love, and love you back. Time is precious and time needs to be spent enjoying life rather than worrying about it.
That is what went through my mind as I drove to our possible venue on Sunday sick out of my mind. That and the oh shit I might throw up feeling. However, I ate a peppermint. At first disturbing, but I started to feel a little less queasy. Then we headed home, I went right to bed and zoned in and out. However, the best moment of the night is when little Avery jumped on top of me, waking me up, and Vicki saying "Avery I said you could snuggle on him, not jump on him." I hugged her back and fell back to sleep, and woke right up.
It's moments like that I love and I cherish. It's why I work out. It's why I watch my eating. It's why I try to be well.
It's the reason I strive to get and feel better.
Mike C
PS: My new friend that I didn't know existed when I went to High School teaches classes at Lifetime (she's kick your ass which is always good) started writing. Her blog contains shit you should write down. Check it out. Her first piece is amazing. I will list her link here.
Yes we were sick. Hell, at this time, most of America is sick. However for most of us, there is something really beautiful about being sick.
We have a chance to become better.
Many people in this world stay sick forever. They stay sick until they die. My family and I have the grace of God to rebound from sickness. You feel like you're going to die, but when it's over, you feel thrilled you have the chance to live again.
The way I chose to decide to live, I went and kicked my ass at Insanity, got myself to the office, and get back in the groove. I am enjoying time with my family, and counting the days until we have a ceremony to celebrate our love. I will touch on that one more tomorrow, however for now...
Remember that each moment in life is a gift. Wellness is a gift that should not be taken for granted. You need to take care of yourself for not only you, but the ones you love, and love you back. Time is precious and time needs to be spent enjoying life rather than worrying about it.
That is what went through my mind as I drove to our possible venue on Sunday sick out of my mind. That and the oh shit I might throw up feeling. However, I ate a peppermint. At first disturbing, but I started to feel a little less queasy. Then we headed home, I went right to bed and zoned in and out. However, the best moment of the night is when little Avery jumped on top of me, waking me up, and Vicki saying "Avery I said you could snuggle on him, not jump on him." I hugged her back and fell back to sleep, and woke right up.
It's moments like that I love and I cherish. It's why I work out. It's why I watch my eating. It's why I try to be well.
It's the reason I strive to get and feel better.
Mike C
PS: My new friend that I didn't know existed when I went to High School teaches classes at Lifetime (she's kick your ass which is always good) started writing. Her blog contains shit you should write down. Check it out. Her first piece is amazing. I will list her link here.
Thursday, January 30, 2014
ITS A BEAUTIFUL MORNING
Sometimes I have a bad day. I bite people's heads off. I curse. I yell. I feel frustrated. However I always remember one thing, it could be worse.
Some people when they wake up, they cannot do the things you and I can do.
They can't eat and drink right. They can't get out of bed without assistance. They can't move around without the help of a wheelchair or crutches. Some people cannot see the beautiful sunrise. Some people cannot hear the sound of birds chirping. And worse off, some people don't wake up because they could be in a coma.
It's easy to take for granted all the things you have in your life because the stress and problems may cloud that. We live in a right now mentality, where we need to take care of our business. If we don't pay the bills, we could be homeless. If we don't get our work done, we may be unemployed. If we don't get food, we'll go hungry. I think you get the picture.
This is one of my biggest weaknesses. I forget there is a bigger picture and there is much to be happy for. I let my problems and insecurities consume me. However, I believe this is something that you and I can work on together. We need to understand that when God gives us a day to wake up, breathe, and smell the roses, that this is a gift and we must take advantage of it.
Yes, we all have pressures and issues. However we must remember the true reason we are here. To enjoy time with the family, to make peace with our lives, and to enjoy every minute we can. Sure we might have to bust ass to get there, but remember that its always here waiting for us, every second we take a breath on this Earth. You and I need to take a moment to remember that.
After all, it's a beautiful morning.
Mike C
Some people when they wake up, they cannot do the things you and I can do.
They can't eat and drink right. They can't get out of bed without assistance. They can't move around without the help of a wheelchair or crutches. Some people cannot see the beautiful sunrise. Some people cannot hear the sound of birds chirping. And worse off, some people don't wake up because they could be in a coma.
It's easy to take for granted all the things you have in your life because the stress and problems may cloud that. We live in a right now mentality, where we need to take care of our business. If we don't pay the bills, we could be homeless. If we don't get our work done, we may be unemployed. If we don't get food, we'll go hungry. I think you get the picture.
This is one of my biggest weaknesses. I forget there is a bigger picture and there is much to be happy for. I let my problems and insecurities consume me. However, I believe this is something that you and I can work on together. We need to understand that when God gives us a day to wake up, breathe, and smell the roses, that this is a gift and we must take advantage of it.
Yes, we all have pressures and issues. However we must remember the true reason we are here. To enjoy time with the family, to make peace with our lives, and to enjoy every minute we can. Sure we might have to bust ass to get there, but remember that its always here waiting for us, every second we take a breath on this Earth. You and I need to take a moment to remember that.
After all, it's a beautiful morning.
Mike C
Monday, January 27, 2014
COLDNESS
Before I get started today, I just wanted to take a moment to thank all of you for your kind words regarding Vicki and the engagement. Thank you so much. It's nice to see so many of you care.
Now onto POLAR VORTEX *insert Kerry King solo here*.
The cold has crippled us this month. We have had four snow days in school. Four days where business is shut down, and life kind of stopped. I had a class canceled today, and it looks like Jersey's keyboarding class may never happen again.
I saw many posts from people regarding the cold. I wanted to share some of them with you...
Gee, a another day off of school tomorrow, as the winter of wussy continues
The worst thing about these "cold" days isn't going to be the time we make up at the end of the year, it will be the first 5 day week that we have!
Oh c'mon...it ain't that cold!
Shame on you Warren Newport PUBLIC Library! You're a taxing body, and a public building, you have zero right closing due to the cold! There are people out there counting on public buildings being open during this cold!
How many snow days did we have growing up ?
I found these to be humorous and it brings up a great point. Especially the last one.
Many of the people in my generation didn't enjoy very many snow days. In fact check out the coldest days of Chicago history here. The 1/6 day was close, but doesn't measure up to these temps. I don't recall closing school for them.
I get it's a safety issue, but as you can see above, people are frustrated. Many people, like me, will not let the cold get in the way of being productive. The cold is an excuse to be lazy. Public building should not be shut down. Services needed to go to work. The mail came today, but the garbage wasn't picked up. Also, no notification came from the garbage company letting us know they were going to take advantage of this cold weather and not work.
Although Jersey enjoys the days off, she missed a new class that she really is interested in. The schools have working heat. The buses don't have to run and parents should be given the choice whether or not they would like to take their kids to school. I am a firm believer that life shouldn't shut down because its cold as hell outside.
We all want to be productive and we should. Are we going to let Mother Nature keep us locked in our house? Or do we go outside flick her off and go to work? I canceled appointments today to stay home with my kids. However, I will be doing them tomorrow. No POLAR VORTEX *insert Dave Mustaine riff here* is keeping me in check.
Mike C
Sunday, January 26, 2014
FOR VICKI
Today Vicki took my hand in marriage. I love that girl.
This is our song...
I don't think I could live without your love
Whatever I give you, I can't give you enough
Memories of you, girl, day after day
make our love go stronger when you're so far away
Like a midnight rider on an endless road
I'm a sole survivor carrying a heavy load
I don't want to live without you
I don't want to feel the pain
I don't want to live without you
Nothin's gonna change it
Never wanna live without you
Don't think I could stand the pain
I don't want to live without you
I don't want to change it
Now I know you've been waitin' for so long
I've been lost for words so I'll give you this song
Livin' on a memory and a picture of you
makes my heart skip a beat
It's the best I can do
Just a midnight rider on an endless road
I'm a sole survivor carrying a heavy load
I don't want to live without you
I don't want to feel the pain
I don't want to live without you
Nothin's gonna change it
Never wanna live without you
Don't think I could stand the pain
I don't want to live without you
I don't want to change it
It's just me and you and not a damn thing anyone else can do
Baby, baby, our love is true
Oh, don't you change me
Like a midnight rider on an endless road
I'm a sole survivor carrying a heavy load
Baby, I don't want to live without you.
I don't want to feel the pain
I don't want to live without you
Nothin's gonna change it
I don't want to live without you
I don't want to feel the pain
I don't want to live without you
Nothin's gonna change it
Never wanna live without you
Don't think I could stand the pain
I don't want to live without you
Nothin's gonna change it
I don't think I could live without your love
Whatever I give you, I can't give you enough
Livin' on memories and pictures of you
makes my heart skip a beat
It's the best I can do.
I love you Vicki.
More fun stuff tomorrow kids
Mike C
This is our song...
I don't think I could live without your love
Whatever I give you, I can't give you enough
Memories of you, girl, day after day
make our love go stronger when you're so far away
Like a midnight rider on an endless road
I'm a sole survivor carrying a heavy load
I don't want to live without you
I don't want to feel the pain
I don't want to live without you
Nothin's gonna change it
Never wanna live without you
Don't think I could stand the pain
I don't want to live without you
I don't want to change it
Now I know you've been waitin' for so long
I've been lost for words so I'll give you this song
Livin' on a memory and a picture of you
makes my heart skip a beat
It's the best I can do
Just a midnight rider on an endless road
I'm a sole survivor carrying a heavy load
I don't want to live without you
I don't want to feel the pain
I don't want to live without you
Nothin's gonna change it
Never wanna live without you
Don't think I could stand the pain
I don't want to live without you
I don't want to change it
It's just me and you and not a damn thing anyone else can do
Baby, baby, our love is true
Oh, don't you change me
Like a midnight rider on an endless road
I'm a sole survivor carrying a heavy load
Baby, I don't want to live without you.
I don't want to feel the pain
I don't want to live without you
Nothin's gonna change it
I don't want to live without you
I don't want to feel the pain
I don't want to live without you
Nothin's gonna change it
Never wanna live without you
Don't think I could stand the pain
I don't want to live without you
Nothin's gonna change it
I don't think I could live without your love
Whatever I give you, I can't give you enough
Livin' on memories and pictures of you
makes my heart skip a beat
It's the best I can do.
I love you Vicki.
More fun stuff tomorrow kids
Mike C
Thursday, January 23, 2014
TIME TO STOP CARING
Justin Bieber is a troubled youngster. Catapulted to fame way too early for not having talent. Some jabroni thought it would be a good idea to give him a shot based off of his moronic You Tube videos. That of course is my opinion because there are many beliebers out there that will tell you otherwise.
However, the fascination of his trials and tribulations is what befuddles me.
Yes I am guilty of posting a joke about him getting a DUI and going to jail and what not. Many of us did. It's what America does. Pass judgment on kids who act like little shits and laugh when they fall. Ha ha ha. Then we move on.
However, a friend of mine posted this on facebook today and I will let the video speak for itself:
So we interrupted an interview pertaining to national security and privacy to talk about this fricking clown who got a DUI?
There's only two possibilities here.
The first, MSNBC doesn't have a clue how to do things. Perhaps, the tryst of young Justin is compelling TV and some people really care about this nit wit.
Or, MSNBC was ordered to pull the plug on the story.
The media is regulated and MSNBC is owned by NBC which is owned by General Electric. What is the connection with General Electric and this story? This is here in case you didn't know.
Either way you look at it, its quite a disturbing trend. Our media is regulated by the government, but there are limits, supposedly.
Look I didn't want to write a conspiracy piece. I really wanted to get to the meat of the matter here. If you are someone who is into the government using mind control tricks and stuff like that, let me give you a minute to get it out of your system.
*pausing and getting a drink of water*
OK. Here's the point. We as a society need to understand celebs are normal people like us. It is the American public that puts them on pedestals, silver plates, clouds, whatever. We are the ones who fall in love with these people. Morning radio always has a segment reserved just for them. Some people want to defend them to the death, and others want to see them fail.
After bashing people for years, I ask you this question I asked myself...
The media loves to shove this crap in our face because they know 90% of the population will eat it up and talk about it. What we need to do is show restraint and stop caring? Recognize the talents and pieces that these artists present. Who cares about them personally?
We know there are people making cash for reality TV and becoming household names because of that. There are people like the Kardashians who seriously, I have no idea what they contribute to society but they're out there. Its kind of like mushrooms. We know that many athletes and musicians can be pricks and bitches at times.
So why should any of this affect the way we live? How do we ignore it?
That is the only way to get the media to stop throwing it in our face. Ignore it. Ignore them. Hell, its getting to the point where half of what's reported is crap. We need to stay informed through other sources. Not Fox News or MSNBC.
And instead of worrying about Bieber's DUI, lets worry about how are we going to get through the day being strong and kicking ass.
Instead of worrying about Lindsay Lohan going to rehab, let's worry about how we are going to spend the day and make the most of it.
Instead of feeling jealous and insecure because these schmucks have it all on the surface, let's take inventory of the things we do have that matter.
Because in the end, that's who matters. Us and the ones we love.
Mike C
However, the fascination of his trials and tribulations is what befuddles me.
Yes I am guilty of posting a joke about him getting a DUI and going to jail and what not. Many of us did. It's what America does. Pass judgment on kids who act like little shits and laugh when they fall. Ha ha ha. Then we move on.
However, a friend of mine posted this on facebook today and I will let the video speak for itself:
So we interrupted an interview pertaining to national security and privacy to talk about this fricking clown who got a DUI?
There's only two possibilities here.
The first, MSNBC doesn't have a clue how to do things. Perhaps, the tryst of young Justin is compelling TV and some people really care about this nit wit.
Or, MSNBC was ordered to pull the plug on the story.
The media is regulated and MSNBC is owned by NBC which is owned by General Electric. What is the connection with General Electric and this story? This is here in case you didn't know.
Either way you look at it, its quite a disturbing trend. Our media is regulated by the government, but there are limits, supposedly.
Look I didn't want to write a conspiracy piece. I really wanted to get to the meat of the matter here. If you are someone who is into the government using mind control tricks and stuff like that, let me give you a minute to get it out of your system.
*pausing and getting a drink of water*
OK. Here's the point. We as a society need to understand celebs are normal people like us. It is the American public that puts them on pedestals, silver plates, clouds, whatever. We are the ones who fall in love with these people. Morning radio always has a segment reserved just for them. Some people want to defend them to the death, and others want to see them fail.
After bashing people for years, I ask you this question I asked myself...
Why bother? It's not like they hear us. It's not like they care, so why should we?Yes anyone who watched SRTV and/or the mJp knows that I went on and on bashing people. I don't know why, I guess I was an angry guy. So perhaps I am the pot calling kettle black here. Hell I did it to start this thing off.
The media loves to shove this crap in our face because they know 90% of the population will eat it up and talk about it. What we need to do is show restraint and stop caring? Recognize the talents and pieces that these artists present. Who cares about them personally?
We know there are people making cash for reality TV and becoming household names because of that. There are people like the Kardashians who seriously, I have no idea what they contribute to society but they're out there. Its kind of like mushrooms. We know that many athletes and musicians can be pricks and bitches at times.
So why should any of this affect the way we live? How do we ignore it?
That is the only way to get the media to stop throwing it in our face. Ignore it. Ignore them. Hell, its getting to the point where half of what's reported is crap. We need to stay informed through other sources. Not Fox News or MSNBC.
And instead of worrying about Bieber's DUI, lets worry about how are we going to get through the day being strong and kicking ass.
Instead of worrying about Lindsay Lohan going to rehab, let's worry about how we are going to spend the day and make the most of it.
Instead of feeling jealous and insecure because these schmucks have it all on the surface, let's take inventory of the things we do have that matter.
Because in the end, that's who matters. Us and the ones we love.
Mike C
Wednesday, January 22, 2014
AWAKE AND DREAMING
Its 1 am, I should have gone to sleep hours ago, but nope. Still awake. However, I will be passing out here shortly. The thought of me passing out made me think of an idea to share with you. A thought. A question.
Do you have dreams?
You can answer either when you are sleeping or awake. Literally or figuratively.
The literal sense of the dream is what I will be experiencing as soon as I get done here. I mean, you go to sleep, your mind paints a video for you, and you wake up wondering what just happened. Perhaps you may get lucky and see Dominick Cobb in your dream trying to teach you how to steal information.
But those are not the dreams we are talking about here. Those are not the dreams that will keep you alive. Those are dreams that simply tell you that you're breathing.
No the dreams I am talking about are hopes, aspirations, goals.
What do you want to do? What is your mission? What is your passion? WHAT IS YOUR DREAM?
We just celebrated Martin Luther King Jr day. He had a dream. It was literal but it also deals with what I am talking about here.
So do this, write down your dream. Your hope. What you would like to do with your life? What do you want to accomplish? And once you get one down, then write more. Hopefully you have a long list.
Dreams are what make this world go around. Without dreams and goals, we don't have ambition to make them reality. Without direction, we stand still. Without hope, we live in doubt. Without light, we stay in darkness. Without destiny, we accept where we are.
And maybe for some of you, that's what you want, and that's OK.
However, I will tell you this. I have dreams for me and my family. I have visions of greatness for my two daughters. I want to make my girls smile. I want to make people laugh, cry, and think...and most importantly dream. Dream of what life would be like if they would allow themselves a chance to get uncomfortable to make positive changes.
My final thought: if you stop dreaming, you stop living. Take that one to heart, because that is where all hopes and dreams begin.
Mike C
Do you have dreams?
You can answer either when you are sleeping or awake. Literally or figuratively.
The literal sense of the dream is what I will be experiencing as soon as I get done here. I mean, you go to sleep, your mind paints a video for you, and you wake up wondering what just happened. Perhaps you may get lucky and see Dominick Cobb in your dream trying to teach you how to steal information.
But those are not the dreams we are talking about here. Those are not the dreams that will keep you alive. Those are dreams that simply tell you that you're breathing.
No the dreams I am talking about are hopes, aspirations, goals.
What do you want to do? What is your mission? What is your passion? WHAT IS YOUR DREAM?
We just celebrated Martin Luther King Jr day. He had a dream. It was literal but it also deals with what I am talking about here.
So do this, write down your dream. Your hope. What you would like to do with your life? What do you want to accomplish? And once you get one down, then write more. Hopefully you have a long list.
Dreams are what make this world go around. Without dreams and goals, we don't have ambition to make them reality. Without direction, we stand still. Without hope, we live in doubt. Without light, we stay in darkness. Without destiny, we accept where we are.
And maybe for some of you, that's what you want, and that's OK.
However, I will tell you this. I have dreams for me and my family. I have visions of greatness for my two daughters. I want to make my girls smile. I want to make people laugh, cry, and think...and most importantly dream. Dream of what life would be like if they would allow themselves a chance to get uncomfortable to make positive changes.
My final thought: if you stop dreaming, you stop living. Take that one to heart, because that is where all hopes and dreams begin.
Mike C
Tuesday, January 21, 2014
IF YOU TRYING, YOU'RE LYING
Let's start today with a nice little jam
OK. Now we use the words "try it out." That's cool.
When you're trying to do something, not too cool.
Trying and doing are two different things. You can't do them both. If you're trying something new that's awesome. Good for you. You're sick. Go kick that ass boy or girl.
If you're still trying to do it, there lies the problem.
This is so true with self wellness. For instance, people say they are trying to work out more. Yes things get in the way of that. Projects at work, family obligations, the distractions are everywhere. When you make plans, life happens, no doubt.
So when it comes to this, you either do it or don't.
You accept that wellness is not your focus and continue to let the world get in your way. Or you say, I will make time for this, and you get it done.
As you can see, there is no trying.
In life, you can participate or you can exist. You can sit back and let what happens happen, and then decide to bitch about it which usually will make you more agitated. That's the easy thing to do. Accept your role and move on.
There is the flip side. You go out there and kick some ass. The try mentality may be OK in the beginning, but you need to decide if you're ready to move on and do this shit. Your boss gives you an assignment, are you going to kick it in the ass, or are you going to half ass it? When you fight with your spouse, are you going to accept defeat or are you going to try to build on it and strengthen the relationship.
The thing that gets in the way the most besides distraction is that four letter word we talked about, fear.
Fear of failing.
Fear of unknown.
Fear of result.
Remember this when your fear kicks in.
It's OK to fail. Everyone does. When you get kicked down, are you getting back up?
If you don't know what it is, you can't feel anything towards it. It doesn't exist until you know what it is.
There is always going to be a result. You take the result, and deal with it when it happens. Putting it off only makes it worse.
To defeat your fears, you must eliminate trying, and find a way to start doing.
I think you can run with this piece a little bit more. Remember do, don't try.
Mike C
OK. Now we use the words "try it out." That's cool.
When you're trying to do something, not too cool.
Trying and doing are two different things. You can't do them both. If you're trying something new that's awesome. Good for you. You're sick. Go kick that ass boy or girl.
If you're still trying to do it, there lies the problem.
This is so true with self wellness. For instance, people say they are trying to work out more. Yes things get in the way of that. Projects at work, family obligations, the distractions are everywhere. When you make plans, life happens, no doubt.
So when it comes to this, you either do it or don't.
You accept that wellness is not your focus and continue to let the world get in your way. Or you say, I will make time for this, and you get it done.
As you can see, there is no trying.
In life, you can participate or you can exist. You can sit back and let what happens happen, and then decide to bitch about it which usually will make you more agitated. That's the easy thing to do. Accept your role and move on.
There is the flip side. You go out there and kick some ass. The try mentality may be OK in the beginning, but you need to decide if you're ready to move on and do this shit. Your boss gives you an assignment, are you going to kick it in the ass, or are you going to half ass it? When you fight with your spouse, are you going to accept defeat or are you going to try to build on it and strengthen the relationship.
The thing that gets in the way the most besides distraction is that four letter word we talked about, fear.
Fear of failing.
Fear of unknown.
Fear of result.
Remember this when your fear kicks in.
It's OK to fail. Everyone does. When you get kicked down, are you getting back up?
If you don't know what it is, you can't feel anything towards it. It doesn't exist until you know what it is.
There is always going to be a result. You take the result, and deal with it when it happens. Putting it off only makes it worse.
To defeat your fears, you must eliminate trying, and find a way to start doing.
I think you can run with this piece a little bit more. Remember do, don't try.
Mike C
Monday, January 20, 2014
ADRENALINE AND ATTITUDE
So hey there, did you happen to catch Seattle Seahawks corner back Richard Sherman "cut a promo" after the NFC Championship game last night? If not, well, here you go....
Now the reaction to this is amazing. Here are some comments from my facebook page last night.
-Richard Sherman is a classless piece of s**t!! Time to pull for the Broncos to win this SB!
-Hoodrat
-Richard Sherman was cutting a wrestling promo with Erin Andrews. Actually Richard was being a dick. Makes sense Richard = Dick.
-He said it in a way that was very ignorant over live tv were kids and fans are watching. Its one of those things u just keep to urself (sic)
And then there was the wonderful racism that followed.
My question is this. Is it wrong for someone to go all nuts on someone who disrespects him for no reason at an event.
My point to that is this. There is no better feeling that getting one up on the person who wronged you, doubted you, tried to hold you down. Believe me when I tell you I have risen above many people who doubted me. This includes people in my own family. When someone accomplishes that mission, it is quite hard to hold the emotion in.
Here lies the case of Richard Sherman.
I am not the biggest Seahawks fan, but I do respect Sherman because he brings humanity into this game. Many people don't like what he did. Why are football players being held by standards of what they say during post game interviews, when really the standard they should be held to is their off field persona. Everyone changes once its game time.
If you're involved in a game and you have been going at it with a certain member of the team, aren't you going to explode when you get one over on them? When that boy/girl doesn't want to date you because you look a certain way, doesn't it feel good when you work your ass off to make 10 other people want a piece of you and that person is there to see it? Isn't it the best feeling in the world when you had people you love telling you you couldn't do it, and do it and they see you succeed?
That is what happened with him. He wasn't being arrogant. He wasn't being a hood rat. He rode a wave of emotion.
That happens to the best of us. Its in our DNA to feel good about accomplishing goals and bettering ourselves despite what others think. I myself, have had a need to prove people wrong since high school. Teachers told me I wouldn't amount to anything, kids would pick on me because of my speech impediment. Do you think I let any of that stop me? As I went on in life, I let if fuel me.
Then our good buddy SFR was born out of that spite. A hundred times worse than Richard Sherman could ever be.
That moment of adrenaline is human. When it becomes part of character, it's annoying.
I don't think that is a part of his character. I think he just gets caught up like we all do.
When you have your victory, celebrate it. Then let it go. You have a life to live. It's not always about proving people wrong. It's about enjoying what you do and moving on.
It has taken me 37 years to learn that. Hopefully if you read this, it takes you 5 minutes.
Mike C
Now the reaction to this is amazing. Here are some comments from my facebook page last night.
-Richard Sherman is a classless piece of s**t!! Time to pull for the Broncos to win this SB!
-Hoodrat
-Richard Sherman was cutting a wrestling promo with Erin Andrews. Actually Richard was being a dick. Makes sense Richard = Dick.
-He said it in a way that was very ignorant over live tv were kids and fans are watching. Its one of those things u just keep to urself (sic)
And then there was the wonderful racism that followed.
My question is this. Is it wrong for someone to go all nuts on someone who disrespects him for no reason at an event.
My point to that is this. There is no better feeling that getting one up on the person who wronged you, doubted you, tried to hold you down. Believe me when I tell you I have risen above many people who doubted me. This includes people in my own family. When someone accomplishes that mission, it is quite hard to hold the emotion in.
Here lies the case of Richard Sherman.
I am not the biggest Seahawks fan, but I do respect Sherman because he brings humanity into this game. Many people don't like what he did. Why are football players being held by standards of what they say during post game interviews, when really the standard they should be held to is their off field persona. Everyone changes once its game time.
If you're involved in a game and you have been going at it with a certain member of the team, aren't you going to explode when you get one over on them? When that boy/girl doesn't want to date you because you look a certain way, doesn't it feel good when you work your ass off to make 10 other people want a piece of you and that person is there to see it? Isn't it the best feeling in the world when you had people you love telling you you couldn't do it, and do it and they see you succeed?
That is what happened with him. He wasn't being arrogant. He wasn't being a hood rat. He rode a wave of emotion.
That happens to the best of us. Its in our DNA to feel good about accomplishing goals and bettering ourselves despite what others think. I myself, have had a need to prove people wrong since high school. Teachers told me I wouldn't amount to anything, kids would pick on me because of my speech impediment. Do you think I let any of that stop me? As I went on in life, I let if fuel me.
Then our good buddy SFR was born out of that spite. A hundred times worse than Richard Sherman could ever be.
That moment of adrenaline is human. When it becomes part of character, it's annoying.
I don't think that is a part of his character. I think he just gets caught up like we all do.
When you have your victory, celebrate it. Then let it go. You have a life to live. It's not always about proving people wrong. It's about enjoying what you do and moving on.
It has taken me 37 years to learn that. Hopefully if you read this, it takes you 5 minutes.
Mike C
Saturday, January 18, 2014
LETS GET SOME WORK DONE
What is the one thing you wish you could change about yourself that is the most difficult? Mine without a doubt would be my quick temper, and insecurity about myself.
My anger is an Achilles heel towards my growth, It's a part of me. It was instilled in me when I was little due to many factors. I grew up around anger in my household, I was angry at the world, I was angry for getting picked on, I was angry for my mother's passing. In short, I was one angry guy. I'm just "hating"as the kids would say. LOL
These days I ask myself, what the hell should I be angry about in the long scheme of things?
When I try to answer, I really can't think of anything.
Sure I have days when business and work bother me. Who doesn't? There are struggles in the house, but love conquers them all. I have lingering issues going on and noise coming in. Sometimes you just need to get the remote and turn the volume. I have lived a life where I feel like I need to constantly be on. Do I have stress and deadlines? Of course. Do I feel overwhelmed? Absolutely. However, my goal is to not let this creep into my every minute of the day. I try to ground myself to stay in the moment, rather than look forward to the future. I do not have a crystal ball or Miss Cleo's psychic powers, therefore why stress?
I have learned how to let go. Control what's in my control, and try not to manipulate what's not. Try not to let the Indy 500 race in my head begin. I am working hard on this daily.
We all fear the future. In the days of good old MJP I always said don't fear the future, fear right now. I said that because when things are happening right now, they make sense. Well at the time I didn't but looking back, it makes sense. I said it as a catchy slogan for my TV show. It was cool wasn't it?
When you work to eliminate hate from your life, you bring other great feelings in. We all have a multitude of feelings we deal with on a daily basis. Things that happen to us are neutral. We assign them meaning through our emotions. If it rains, it just rains. We decide whether we want to be pissed about it or not. We decide if we are going to become blue due to the drops hitting the window. When someone speaks to you, their words are just words. Unless that person assigns the meaning, then one must respond and not react.
This is one of those practice what you preach moments for me, but I am working on it. I ask we all work on it together. If we master the skill, we can't lose. No need to hate, when there is so much to love. God gives you life every day. Make it count and mean something through your actions and response, not through your reactions and feelings.
So did you ask yourself the big question?
What is your rough spot? How you going to work on it?
Let me know if you need support. I can give you that. I want the best for you.
Always remember what Sofia said to David in Vanilla Sky...
Yeah you and me. I think we'll be just fine.
Mike C
My anger is an Achilles heel towards my growth, It's a part of me. It was instilled in me when I was little due to many factors. I grew up around anger in my household, I was angry at the world, I was angry for getting picked on, I was angry for my mother's passing. In short, I was one angry guy. I'm just "hating"as the kids would say. LOL
These days I ask myself, what the hell should I be angry about in the long scheme of things?
When I try to answer, I really can't think of anything.
Sure I have days when business and work bother me. Who doesn't? There are struggles in the house, but love conquers them all. I have lingering issues going on and noise coming in. Sometimes you just need to get the remote and turn the volume. I have lived a life where I feel like I need to constantly be on. Do I have stress and deadlines? Of course. Do I feel overwhelmed? Absolutely. However, my goal is to not let this creep into my every minute of the day. I try to ground myself to stay in the moment, rather than look forward to the future. I do not have a crystal ball or Miss Cleo's psychic powers, therefore why stress?
I have learned how to let go. Control what's in my control, and try not to manipulate what's not. Try not to let the Indy 500 race in my head begin. I am working hard on this daily.
We all fear the future. In the days of good old MJP I always said don't fear the future, fear right now. I said that because when things are happening right now, they make sense. Well at the time I didn't but looking back, it makes sense. I said it as a catchy slogan for my TV show. It was cool wasn't it?
When you work to eliminate hate from your life, you bring other great feelings in. We all have a multitude of feelings we deal with on a daily basis. Things that happen to us are neutral. We assign them meaning through our emotions. If it rains, it just rains. We decide whether we want to be pissed about it or not. We decide if we are going to become blue due to the drops hitting the window. When someone speaks to you, their words are just words. Unless that person assigns the meaning, then one must respond and not react.
This is one of those practice what you preach moments for me, but I am working on it. I ask we all work on it together. If we master the skill, we can't lose. No need to hate, when there is so much to love. God gives you life every day. Make it count and mean something through your actions and response, not through your reactions and feelings.
So did you ask yourself the big question?
What is your rough spot? How you going to work on it?
Let me know if you need support. I can give you that. I want the best for you.
Always remember what Sofia said to David in Vanilla Sky...
Yeah you and me. I think we'll be just fine.
Mike C
POSITIONED POPULATION
Advertisements infiltrate the human soul. Everywhere you look, you are being targeted. Many corporations out there want you to buy products. Some you may need, others you may want, but in the end the question has to be asked like in Fight Club "is this essential to our survival in the hunter-gatherer sense of the word?"
Ads play off of emotion, and we are walking balls of emotion. Whether we want to admit it or not. Some people are like me who wear it on their sleeve, others keep their feelings locked in deep, but they feel. Everyone does. It cannot be denied. They want you to buy the product, no matter the cost, quality, or whatever. An ad wants to make you feel like you need a product to become a better person, but in the end, you're just a sale.
Before I continue, can you imagine what the world would be like if you had ads like this that would tell the truth...
Yes I laugh my ass off every time I see that too.
Point is, the majority of us lack confidence, lack discipline, lack a certain comfort about ourselves. People need IPhones to feel special. If you are not wearing Victoria's Secret, then you are not as sexy as a woman because being sexy for a woman should be a secret right? Men over 40, you need to be having sex so take a pill. Many 40 year old men just want to come home and watch TV and hit the bar with the boys. Kids, TOYS TOYS TOYS. Now that one is not fair because when kids see something cool ad or not, they want it! Believe me they do. The walls in my house tell me so due to all the toys crawling up it.
I personally think that each of us is special. We all have different talents and features we bring to the table that makes us who we are, and we need to learn how to be proud of those things without the help of buying that car that might get us a hand job from a stranger. We need to learn how to be interesting without wearing that fragrance that the dude that women were gushing over during the Superbowl was wearing. It's hard in this day an age because the deck is stacked against us common folk, but it comes from sheer will and heart to rise above the madness and ascend into greatness.
You need to know that you are great. You have lots of love to give, you have lots of experiences to share, and you were made special. What you should do when you wake up every day is write down three things that you like love about yourself and three goals you would like to accomplish. Perhaps you can say them aloud on your way to where your day takes you. Repeat them throughout the day. Your confidence will spread and others will begin to see you the way you see yourself. It's very hard believe me I know. I have the worst self esteem and it stems from having a childhood where people made fun of me, and having decades of people in my family tell me that things were unattainable.
I remember back in school, I read a book called "Positioning" and I still have it. I believe in the power of advertising. I would work in it and thrive in it, but I don't like the idea of pushing products on people when they simply don't need them. It's up to us to turn off the sales pitch. It's up to us to stop being a credit card number and be a person. Do we have time for this crap? Hell no. The distractions of life are fun, but not necessary.
So person to person, let me tell you something. You can do it. Look in the mirror and tell yourself why you like being you. You don't have to be like Mike, you have to learn to be you and ask yourself how am I going to make the most of it. There is something special in all of us waiting to bust out. Instead of being controlled by the ads, become the ad. Show yourself off to the world. Show why people need to buy into you. Show people why you're truly the best. Turn off the TV, turn on your peers. Do it! It will be fun.
I have faith you will succeed. I know you will.
Mike C
Ads play off of emotion, and we are walking balls of emotion. Whether we want to admit it or not. Some people are like me who wear it on their sleeve, others keep their feelings locked in deep, but they feel. Everyone does. It cannot be denied. They want you to buy the product, no matter the cost, quality, or whatever. An ad wants to make you feel like you need a product to become a better person, but in the end, you're just a sale.
Before I continue, can you imagine what the world would be like if you had ads like this that would tell the truth...
Yes I laugh my ass off every time I see that too.
Point is, the majority of us lack confidence, lack discipline, lack a certain comfort about ourselves. People need IPhones to feel special. If you are not wearing Victoria's Secret, then you are not as sexy as a woman because being sexy for a woman should be a secret right? Men over 40, you need to be having sex so take a pill. Many 40 year old men just want to come home and watch TV and hit the bar with the boys. Kids, TOYS TOYS TOYS. Now that one is not fair because when kids see something cool ad or not, they want it! Believe me they do. The walls in my house tell me so due to all the toys crawling up it.
I personally think that each of us is special. We all have different talents and features we bring to the table that makes us who we are, and we need to learn how to be proud of those things without the help of buying that car that might get us a hand job from a stranger. We need to learn how to be interesting without wearing that fragrance that the dude that women were gushing over during the Superbowl was wearing. It's hard in this day an age because the deck is stacked against us common folk, but it comes from sheer will and heart to rise above the madness and ascend into greatness.
You need to know that you are great. You have lots of love to give, you have lots of experiences to share, and you were made special. What you should do when you wake up every day is write down three things that you like love about yourself and three goals you would like to accomplish. Perhaps you can say them aloud on your way to where your day takes you. Repeat them throughout the day. Your confidence will spread and others will begin to see you the way you see yourself. It's very hard believe me I know. I have the worst self esteem and it stems from having a childhood where people made fun of me, and having decades of people in my family tell me that things were unattainable.
I remember back in school, I read a book called "Positioning" and I still have it. I believe in the power of advertising. I would work in it and thrive in it, but I don't like the idea of pushing products on people when they simply don't need them. It's up to us to turn off the sales pitch. It's up to us to stop being a credit card number and be a person. Do we have time for this crap? Hell no. The distractions of life are fun, but not necessary.
So person to person, let me tell you something. You can do it. Look in the mirror and tell yourself why you like being you. You don't have to be like Mike, you have to learn to be you and ask yourself how am I going to make the most of it. There is something special in all of us waiting to bust out. Instead of being controlled by the ads, become the ad. Show yourself off to the world. Show why people need to buy into you. Show people why you're truly the best. Turn off the TV, turn on your peers. Do it! It will be fun.
I have faith you will succeed. I know you will.
Mike C
WHAT THEY SAY
I wrote this last year, and it rings true now. I have edited it a little.
I had an opportunity tonight to find out if people were talking badly about me. A bonafide opportunity, and I took a pass.
This is how I know I am growing more comfortable in my skin and becoming less insecure. This is how I know I'm growing and I guess what some may call in the biz, a breakthrough. I guarantee you a year or so ago, I would swallow that red pill and see how much shit was down there.
But not today.
It's hard for us to function when we think people, especially friends, family, co-workers, etc are "talking shit" about us. Sometimes one may find themselves ruminating wondering what they say, and what they did to deserve it. I think there are five guidelines we must keep in mind when dealing with this situation.
1-If someone can't step to you and tell you what they think about you, that is not your problem. That is theirs. Obviously they have no spine, class, or care less about you so they choose to handle their issues with you without involving you. Sure things may sting when you hear about them being said, but know thyself. Know what you are, and let others think what they will. This also brings me to number two.
2-Always remember to consider the source. Not only the source of who is talking nasty, but the one who is telling you. First off, why is this person telling you? Are they trying to be a friend, start drama, bored? Ask yourself that question. Then remember rule number one. If they can't say it to your face, they don't deserve a place. The place I referring to is your brain. Put it out of your mind.
3-People talk shit all the time. Always remember unless its inflammatory or serious, everyone nitpicks about people. We all annoy each other every once in a while. Don't take it personal.
4-If someone does talk about you behind your back, think about what was the nicest thing that person has done for you. If it strikes a chord, then you might want to deal with it.
5-The only person you can make happy is you. As I always say right about this time, everyone else, fuck 'em if they can't take a joke.
No one likes drama. When you speak about people, the best way to do so is always say anything you are not afraid of coming back to you. If you stand behind your beliefs, no one can push you around. I read a crazy Venezuelan guy said that once who managed a World Series winning baseball team. He knows some things about life.
Life is too short to worry about what others think of you. Do well, live well, speak well; be kind to others and only kick people in the ass when they really need it. That's my rule. Whatever works for you is yours.
Mike C
I had an opportunity tonight to find out if people were talking badly about me. A bonafide opportunity, and I took a pass.
This is how I know I am growing more comfortable in my skin and becoming less insecure. This is how I know I'm growing and I guess what some may call in the biz, a breakthrough. I guarantee you a year or so ago, I would swallow that red pill and see how much shit was down there.
But not today.
It's hard for us to function when we think people, especially friends, family, co-workers, etc are "talking shit" about us. Sometimes one may find themselves ruminating wondering what they say, and what they did to deserve it. I think there are five guidelines we must keep in mind when dealing with this situation.
1-If someone can't step to you and tell you what they think about you, that is not your problem. That is theirs. Obviously they have no spine, class, or care less about you so they choose to handle their issues with you without involving you. Sure things may sting when you hear about them being said, but know thyself. Know what you are, and let others think what they will. This also brings me to number two.
2-Always remember to consider the source. Not only the source of who is talking nasty, but the one who is telling you. First off, why is this person telling you? Are they trying to be a friend, start drama, bored? Ask yourself that question. Then remember rule number one. If they can't say it to your face, they don't deserve a place. The place I referring to is your brain. Put it out of your mind.
3-People talk shit all the time. Always remember unless its inflammatory or serious, everyone nitpicks about people. We all annoy each other every once in a while. Don't take it personal.
4-If someone does talk about you behind your back, think about what was the nicest thing that person has done for you. If it strikes a chord, then you might want to deal with it.
5-The only person you can make happy is you. As I always say right about this time, everyone else, fuck 'em if they can't take a joke.
No one likes drama. When you speak about people, the best way to do so is always say anything you are not afraid of coming back to you. If you stand behind your beliefs, no one can push you around. I read a crazy Venezuelan guy said that once who managed a World Series winning baseball team. He knows some things about life.
Life is too short to worry about what others think of you. Do well, live well, speak well; be kind to others and only kick people in the ass when they really need it. That's my rule. Whatever works for you is yours.
Mike C
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